By Colleen Noll
Why no pull-ups? Using pull ups to toilet learn during the day can hinder the process.
A pull-up is really close to a diaper, with new designs meaning the absorbency is so good the child will feel wet for just a few seconds before it is magicked away.
The trouble with this is, to the child nothing has changed. You’ve decided that potty training has begun, but if they’re still wearing what is effectively a diaper the child won’t have fully received the message.
Just because the child can pull them up and down like a pair of underwear, doesn’t mean they will.
Let’s talk about the process.
Once the child uses the toilet, the guide will show the child how to use the toilet paper. The guide will ensure the child is clean before pulling pants up. If the child gets some poop on the underwear, the guide will gently speak to the child and have them change their underwear. Most children prefer clean underwear.
The Lead Guide will meet with the Head of School, if the child has been successful with the toilet learning, the guide will send congratulations to the family. If the child is still working on toilet learning, the guide may check in with the family, reiterate the importance of consistency at home and weekends and keep trying.
It is important that children understand the language you use during toilet learning. Quite often there is some embarrassment in using certain words, remember to consider your attitude when interacting with children, if you are embarrassed talking about certain body parts or bodily functions your child could also learn this attitude. Using the toilet is an everyday event and being comfortable explaining the process and body parts to children is important as it is a natural part of our lives. It is important to feel comfortable using adult words around children like to describe body parts and functions.
We recommend considering your language when inviting children to use the toilet always keep it clear, direct and positive, for example “You may go and sit on the toilet” if the child refuses, maintain positive language “you need to sit on the toilet so that you can pee”. Never force a child on the toilet against their will or use language in a negative way saying they “must sit on the toilet”. When a child pees on themselves try not to refer to this as a negative event. Say, “you are wet, we need to sit on the toilet when we pee” making sure to sit the child on the toilet after the event and change wet underwear. Always remain calm and in control of emotions, model this behavior for the child.